Gianni Truvianni

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It is often said by many that love or at least the kind between a man and a woman should not merely be about lust and desire but of something supposedly deeper yet I ask what that would be? Of course there are loves which do not require the above mentioned such as the sort a parent may have for his or her children or children in turn for their parents along with many others in which sexuality does not play a part of the affiliation. I however ask are not lust and desire what be the essence of love between a couple who have taken to a relationship in which sexuality will play a role of some significance though perhaps not the most? For what is it that points out the difference between a plutonic friendship in which love may also be a factor and one linked by sexuality though perhaps not exclusively?

It is in my opinion, if perhaps nobody else’s that it is precisely lust and desire which create the fundament of what love is between a man and a woman linked by the bound of romance, for it is that unvarying requirement of both to constantly want to mate and feel the touch of sexuality that constitutes real adoration between a couple. Naturally as with many things in life, these things may not last forever between those two who at one point felt them which may lead to either their separating from one another. As is often the case with many couples who divorce or carry on living from emotions which at the start were so abundant yet have become a memory. The couple in question then becoming like the car which may continue moving forward after the engine has been turned off, simply on the momentum which was created from the acceleration which is no longer being provided yet I ask is there a point to it? Of course, this question can not be answered by anyone in particular but by everybody yet perhaps it is a point on which much debate can arise from.

If one really considers the matter, lust and desire were the factors which united most couples who entered in to a relationship of romance for without it theirs could not have been qualified as such yet with regards to marriage; this be another matter entirely. For marriage, need not but itself to be what it is. This being a legal union which requires but a couple to stay united within its bonds which necessitate not love or emotion of any kind but for two people to simply respect the agreement they made in the past to stay together till death do them part. It being a case where a union of marriage lasts for many years due to the conveniences it involves which may range from financial arrangements to those of raising children or simply the desire of both not to be alone past a certain age.

I however, for my part consider that it is only desire and lust that makes a relationship be one of true romance and love that be not of a plutonic nature, for when passions (meaning suffering) be present to always be with that certain somebody, regardless of circumstance; it is at this point where there is true adoration. Of course relationships without this sensation can exist as is the case with those whose marriages are prearranged or those who for the sake of convenience enter in to an affair of the amorous kind and it might even be that such unions last longer since they are not based on that which is so fickle as desire and lust. Naturally in affairs like in life there are many options and rarely if ever is there one which in all justice can be called “right for everybody”. As this is a matter for each to decide for him or herself yet I ask can these two elements be ignored so easily? Can a couple, who no longer experience either or perhaps never did; in all truth continue the same when one of the two is exposed to them in an uncontrollable form? It in fact being that many will enter a relationship of marriage with the faith that tells them that these are not needed, for theirs brings along that which can serve as their substitute yet when these two arrive they do so like a heat wave which needs to be experienced to be truly appreciated.